But, as I know from experience, the death of a loved one can make it difficult to
celebrate their life.
The grief of bereavement can be extremely painful for those left behind and understandably
will cloud their view of the world.
In the early stages many find it impossible to imagine life going on as normal.
But it does, as day follows night .
I have found that the words of the 17th century writer Michel de Montagne give some
comfort in that respect. He wrote
“There is no road that doth not have an end and, if company is solace, doth not the
whole world go the same way?”
Whilst you never fully get over the death of a loved one, with time the pain does
diminish and there will come a time when you can remember with a smile, the life
you had together.
Turning a negative event into something resembling a positive can help to start rebuilding
ones life after a bereavement.
From a personal perspective,when my first wife, Amanda, died over 20 years ago I
asked that trees be bought with the money people would have spent on flowers and
with the money raised we were able to plant a small wood, just outside Tonbridge
Wells in Kent.
500 trees that are now contributing in no small way to reducing Global Warming in
that part of the world.